In one of my all-time favorite personal growth and development books, Maximum Achievement by Brian Tracy, he discusses seven ingredients for success. The third is loving relationships.
From the book: “[Loving relationships] are relationships with the people you love and care about, and the people who love and care about you. They are the real measure of how well you are doing as a human being. Most of your happiness and unhappiness in life comes from your relationships with others, and it is your relationships with others that make you truly human.”
Sigh of satisfaction. Every time I read that, I’m struck by the truth of those words. He is so right.
But how do you check the barometer on your loving relationships? One great piece of advice is to monitor the amount of laughter in your home. Tracy writes that “How much two people, or a family, laugh together is the surest single measure of how well things are going. When a relationship is truly happy, people laugh a lot when they’re together. And when a relationship turns sour, the very first thing that goes is the laughter.”
So there you go. A simple way to check the status of your relationships. Are you laughing a lot?
Jacob and I celebrated our nine year anniversary on June 26! I am so blessed to have married someone who loves to laugh. He laughs at things when he could have the choice to get very angry—a lot of times at me! He laughs at something and the tension automatically dissipates. It’s like a super chemical that floats into the air and erases negative energy. By simply injecting more laughter into your day, into situations where you might actually want to shout or walk away, you can transform the relationships around you.
Just to get you started, here’s a joke that our son Andrew made up when he was young:
Andrew: “What is a dog’s favorite part of a movie?”
Mom and Dad: “I don’t know, what?”
Andrew: “The BONE-US features. Get it? BONE-us features?”
We all had a good laugh out of that one.
So get going. Start laughing with those you love. It doesn’t have to be hard. Keep things simple, happy, light, and let the laughter flow.
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