Have you ever people watched? Have you ever seen a really attractive person in stylish clothing who is walking with her shoulders hunched forward, her head slightly dropped, her body settled into a posture of low self-confidence? Have you noticed how that changes everything about her appearance? Suddenly, she’s not as “vibrant,” not as “approachable,” not as attractive.
And, have you ever seen a person who’s not necessarily “Holywood” attractive, but she’s walking with her shoulders back, a smile on her face, and is using a strong, confident gait? Have you noticed how it makes all the difference in the world about how you perceive her? Suddenly, she looks beautiful. She’s like the goddess Athena. You just want to hang out with her and see what’s making her life so awesome.
This is because how we carry ourselves changes everything about how other people perceive us.
In your school, can you think of a girl with an effervescent personality that just seems to draw people to her? (Maybe it’s you!) Maybe it’s not. Guess what. You’re still awesome.
HERE’S THE TRUTH: Our posture and how we “carry” ourselves, is determined much in part by what we think of ourselves. About we believe is possible for our lives. Your own paradigms about WHO you are and WHAT you’re capable of are showing up in how you are presenting yourself to other people.
I made a focus of this principle for myself over the last year. I vowed to work on how I carried myself. BUT, in order to do it fully, I had to work on my insides. Was I loving and accepting myself for EXACTLY who I was? Was I embracing MY gifts, and not pretending to be like anyone else? It’s not always our first inclination to love ourselves just the way we are. But it’s worth it. God loves us. God gave us amazing gifts. And trust me, people can tell (whether consciously or subconsciously) when we are in embracing that truth for ourselves.
I love this quote by Marianne Williamson:
"As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
So, today, what if started carrying yourself in a way that let your light shine? And, in doing so, liberated other people to shine as well?
When you walk into a room with lots of people, pull your shoulders back, put a smile on your face, and repeat inside your head “I am created amazing.” See if this small act, even if it feels awkward and unnatural, changes the way other people approach and interact with you.
Then, continue to work on it. Embrace the truth for yourself. Look in the mirror every morning and repeat ten times: “I like myself. I like myself. I like myself.”
The world can only reflect back to you what you believe is true. Recognize yourself today as the amazing person you are.
Hugs and love to you,
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