Post from: May 2015

Bookfest Friday

Another great week! Keep reading!

Watch this video for book reviews of Never Never (Part II) by Colleen Hoover and Tarryn Fisher and The Giver by Lois Lowry. (P.S. In this video, when I say part 1 of the story Never Never was "pretty graphic," I'm referring to sexual scenes/references within the book. As in, I wouldn't feel comfortable letting my teenager read it.)


BOOKS TO READ FOR THIS WEEK, (week starting Friday, May 29):

It's Madeleine L'Engle week!!

A Circle of Quiet by Madeleine L'Engle

A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L'Engle

BOOKS FOR NEXT WEEK, (week starting Friday, June 5):

All Fall Down by Ally Carter

The Conspiracy of Us by Maggie Hall

Teen Tuesday

Growing up, I was always told “Just do your best.” In most moments I heard this, it frustrated me, and I always wondered why. It sounded like positive advice. “Just do your best.” Of course. "OUR BEST" is what we ALL want to do in life.

Here are some of the times I heard the “just do your best” phrase during my adolescents:

- The night before a big test or project presentation.

- Before the 400 meter race at a track meet.

- During the middle of a crazy busy week filled with homework, sports, and clubs.

It took about a decade and a half to discover the root of my frustration at hearing this “just do your best” phrase.

I was misinterpreting it. You see,

Doing my best didn’t always mean doing the hightest I was capable of, ever, in the history of me.

It only meant performing at the highest level I was able to at THAT MOMENT IN TIME.


Soul Saturday

"Where life is possible, a right life is possible."

-Marcus Aurelius

Bookfest Friday

Hope you are enjoying reading along with me, my friends! Onward and upward!

Here's this week's book review on Getting Into Character by Brandilyn Collins and The Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern.


BOOKS TO READ FOR THIS WEEK, (week starting Friday, May 22):

Never Never (Part II) by Colleen Hoover and Tarryn Fisher

The Giver by Lois Lowry

BOOKS FOR NEXT WEEK, (Week starting Friday, May 29):

It's Madeleine L'Engle week!!

A Circle of Quiet by Madeleine L'Engle

A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L'Engle


Soul Saturday

The quote below is my life motto of sorts.

“There is no physician like cheerful thought for dissipating the ills of the body; there is no comforter to compare with good will for dispersing the shadows of grief and sorrow. To live continually in thoughts of ill will, cynicism, suspicions, and envy, is to be confined in a self-made prison hole. But to think well of all, to be cheerful with all, to patiently learn to find the good in all—such unselfish thoughts are the very portals of heaven; and to dwell day by day in thoughts of peace toward every creature will bring abounding peace to their possessor.” –James Allen

Bookfest Friday

Ok all you wonderful Bookfest Readers out there. I realize that last week's vid was crazy fast! I am solving that issue. From here on out, I'm going to address ONE or perhaps, TWO top things that stick out to me in every book we read. We'll leave it at that and keep it real simple.

Here's this week's book review on Percy Jackson and the Lightening Thief by Rick Riordan and Influence by Robert B. Cialdini.


BOOKS TO READ FOR THIS WEEK, (week starting Friday, May 15):

Getting Into Character by Brandilyn Collins

The Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern

BOOKS FOR NEXT WEEK, (Week starting Friday, May 22):

Never Never (Part II) by Colleen Hoover and Tarryn Fisher

The Giver by Lois Lowry

Deep Thought Thursday

Seriously. It’s NEVER about you.

Let me elaborate.

We would save ourselves a LOT of heartache if we could regularly remember that people responses to us say more about THEM than they do about US.

There’s no greater example of this than in elementary school. If my kids ever mention that a fellow student was unkind to them, my immediate response is ALWAYS, “Hmm, I wonder if they’re hurting. I wonder what’s going on in their life that is making them unhappy, or that would make them treat you in a way that was unkind. Remember, their response is not about you.”

Now. Obviously, there are rare exceptions to this rule. If you run a key down the side of someone’s car (please don’t), they are very likely going to be upset. At YOU. For good reason. In moments like this, please don’t repeat to yourself “It’s never about me! Heidi told me it’s never about me!” Because that would be ludicrous.  So please, use your discretion. (My second favorite mantra is “I AM RESPONSIBLE. I AM RESPONSIBLE for everything that happens in my life.” So, this blog has nothing to do with ignoring issues you’ve created.)

My blog for today is on embracing, loving, and accepting that, most all of the time, responses you get from other people say more about THEM, than they do about YOU.

Think about it. If your spouse is having a particularly awesome day, how is he/she going to treat you?


Writer Wednesday

Hello writer friends. Yes, the picture above is a stack of my filled journals. Pages and pages of writing. Story plotting, fiction writing advice, personal notes, goals, quotes, memories, more plotting.

So, today, let’s talk about THE WORDS, THE STORY, THE MESSAGE that you're called to write. For me, what we write is an expression of what resides deep within our souls. Our message, our words, are something sparked by God. They resonate with our spirit. They are a message or story that MUST be told.

Even if you’re writing in your journal, and it’s only for you, it’s still a story YOU needed to flesh out, even if no one else will ever read it besides you.

But, if you’re like me, outside your journal, you are writing to impact, influence, inspire, engage, and entertain others. The more people that hear your message and your stories, the better.

The process of getting your words OUT INTO THIS WORLD is two-sided. There is an esoteric, metaphysical side AND a nitty-gritty, physical side.


Teen Tuesday

I was grocery shopping in Sam’s when a shock of inspiration hit me. I literally had to PULL MY CART OVER, grab some napkins (because I didn’t have my journal), and start scribbling my little heart out.

In the end, this is what poured onto the page: A DECLARATION FOR UNIQUENESS. (Both mine and yours.) As you read, speak it to yourself. I wish I’d had access to this frame of mind when I was a teenager. I hope you will embrace the truths in this declaration, pull them deep into your heart, and make them your own.

BTW, the picture above is of THE ACTUAL napkins. Look at that legible, non-messy handwriting! (Confession: I was forced to write slowly because of the frailty of the napkins. ;)

Okay, here goes:



Today, I hereby declare not to be like anyone else in the world. I’m done comparing. Finished with thinking someone else’s way is the right way. This only limits me from expressing myself fully and living to the highest potential.

Today, I hereby decide not to be like anyone else. I will let my light shine, in hopes that others will see that they, too, are free from the confines of comparatism, if only they should so decide it for themselves.

Today, I hereby insist. I will be an individual—not for the sake of individualism itself—but rather to open myself up to others, and them to me.  

My newfound freedom will allow floodgates of joy to flow between me and every fellow human being I encounter. It is for them that I push forward. It is for them that I press onward with my beacon of “Self” lit brightly, so that when I encounter each individual, they do not see me, but instead, see their own Self in the light.

Written by Heidi Tankersley



Onward and upward my fellow beacon carriers.


Super Mom Monday

Happy Mother's Day yesterday to all my SuperMoms out there. I love each and every one of you.

So. Let's get nitty gritty. We just had a NATIONAL HOLIDAY for Pete’s sake. We celebrated ourselves. And yet, still, all day in the back of my head, I had this little whisper of a voice telling me that we moms are missing something. This was the whisper:


I had to learn this for myself because I had an amazing Mom. She sewed, she crafted, she quilted, she 4-H’d us. She drove us to sports, youth group, singing competitions, debate. She cooked, she cleaned, and, most importantly, (and what I absolutely love and cherish most about my mom) she raised her five kids with the FREEDOM to be exactly who we EACH were created to be. She was the most kind, amazing, empowering woman. I miss her with my whole heart, and it’s only been thirteen months.

BUT.  (And it’s a big BUT.)

Ahem… I have a HUGE, HUGE confession to make…